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Making ChoicesChoices determine your existence. This is a bold and profound statement, yet at the same time very simple. The choices you make each and every day have a lasting impact on where your life will go. Staying up late all the time? You are likely going to be tired when you wake up in the morning. Hanging out with the wrong crowd? You are likely going to be making decisions that point your life in a non healthy direction.
I would like to talk about how choices are the driving mechanism for your life. Learning to live with the choices others make will also be discussed. Some suggestions to help you choose things in your life that will build you up will also be discussed. Lastly, I will talk about overcoming laziness and natural tendencies to be proactive in decision making.
Choices Drive Your LifeI am making a choice right now to make this page on my website. I am choosing to concentrate and put together the knowledge of choices that I am gaining in my life. I am choosing to take the time to sit at my computer and be proactive. I could be watching a basketball game, eating a pizza, or taking a nap. This simple choice is paving the way for this website. I am excited to see all of the information I have compiled to this point. I know the choice of doing this website will lead to great things even with the sacrifice it entails.
I spent some time in Ireland many years ago, from 1997 - 1999. I was able to travel all over the island. It was an interesting time in my life. It was the first time I was away from home. I spent my time over there doing a service mission to help other people and share my beliefs with them. This was what I would consider a life changing choice that has helped drive the direction my life is going. The interesting thing about this choice is that it has not led me to be more interested in furthering my beliefs. Rather, it was a spring board which opened my eyes to a lot of realities in the world and the consequences, both positive and negative, of people's decisions.
In Ireland, I witnessed those who made choices to help other people and seek to do good. I saw that these people were happy. I saw other people who were addicted to harmful substances. Some even wandered the streets in a drunken state. This was very sad to see. Some people were addicted to TV as slaves. No room to grow or expand because of it. Other people worked tirelessly at their professions and were very successful. This goes not just for Ireland, however, my eyes were opened to the affects choices have on people while I was over there. The choices made by you are at the heart of where your life is right now.
Now in some cases other people make choices that affect your life, sometimes negatively. Someone may drive recklessley and hit your car. Or someone may be disruptive in a classroom and it affects your concentration. Some kids may throw snowballs at your house and you walk out and get hit in the face with one of them. There are cases where the choices of others negatively impact you. But I believe that your own individual choices have a much greater driving force on your life than anything anyone else could possibly do to you.
Here are some simple examples of how choices drive my life and other people:
- I decide to stuff my face with a pizza and feel sick afterwards (and gain some weight)
- I decide to work on this website and put much thought and effort into it
- I give my wife a hug and tell her I appreciate and love her
- I decide to stay up until 1 am (for whatever reason)
- Someone driving decides to pay more attention to the radio and an accident occurs
- I decide to go to the gym and exercise my body
- Someone has a rough day and mopes around about it
- Someone who not given a chance defies odds through hard work and determination
Ronnie Price is current a guard for the Utah Jazz of the National Basketball Association (as of April 2008). He attended Utah Valley State College in Orem, UT. That is the same college I attended and graduated from. I was able to watch him play while I was there. I have heard nothing but good things about the work ethic of Ronnie. I have never talked to him personally. But the evidence from sports websites and news articles about his work ethic and desire to succeed tell the tale. Coming from a small school, the odds were definitely against him to make it to professional basketball. But he endured the road, excelled in his summer pro league, and made it. What a great example he is of someone succeeding where it was not a sure fire shot.
Video of Ronnie Price in college and when he was with the Sacramento Kings - Ronnie is Making Good Choices
Accept the Choices of OthersOther people are making choices constantly. Sometimes their choice is to not do anything at all. Either way, other people are making choices. You and everyone else have a mindset of what is believed to be acceptable behavior in regards to choices made in life. Even further, you have a 'template' of the possible choices other people can make and what kind of choice you believe it will be. If you have a child and that child does what you ask, you believe that to be the right choice. If that child does not do what you ask, it is likely you will believe that to be a bad choice. It is important to see beyond the narrow mindset that each one of us has. Even the smartest and most capable person must realize that they are only one and see a bigger picture.
There was a time in the past that I would try and change the choices other people were making. This caused me to think irrationally and illogically. Luckily I wised up and realized that investing the time to do that is generally not a good idea. I have since distanced myself from doing that and those people I was trying to change and the benefit and positive affect on my life has been amazing. I am now accepting of the decisions people make even if I do not agree with them. I recognize the need for people to grown and learn on their own. This was not an easy thing to do, and with our daughter Ellie growing up in the future, I am sure I will face again this challenge.
Positive ChoicesRegardless of what other people are doing, it is up to each of us individually to choose our own destiny. Yes, you decide your fate, nobody else. Looking for someone else to give you the opportunity to achieve your financial dreams? Figure it out for yourself! Sure, work with good people who are on the same level of thinking as you, but do not rely on them. If you have the mindset that you will win the lottery someday and everything will be fine, change it! Take action now to make good decisions to turn your life in the right direction.
Positive choices are any choice made that benefits you and/or someone else. Often a positive choice involves sacrifice. Perhaps you are studying to get a degree in electrical engineering because that is what you are passionate about. No doubt long hours of study and work will be required to succeed at this. But the rewards will come in the future for your hard work. Serve and help other people and watch the positivity that occurs. Positive choices again are any choice you make that benefit your and/or others. Simply take a moment and think before you do something. Or if you have a spur of the moment gut feeling that you really need to do something, do it.
How to Make Good ChoicesThere are some simple and easy to follow steps for making good choices. Most of this involves overcoming natural tendencies to enjoy leisure time as opposed to taking the time to study and work hard at something. The following is a simple list of things you can do to make good choices. Before you read them, promise that you will do every single one of them - seriously promise. None of them are hard and will take only seconds each to do! I hope you are ready! If you do all of them, you will be well on your way to making good choices
- Stand up right now and say, "I will make good choices"
- Clap your hands together five times (clap, clap, clap, clap, clap)
- Smile - if you are having trouble smiling, watch this video of our daughter, Ellie when she was a little baby
- Hold both your arms in front of you and put your thumbs up
The following is a poem by Robert Frost entitled "The Road Not Taken". Think about this poem and how the extraordinary and difficult choices will help you stand out and succeed.
"The Road Not Taken" -- Robert Frost
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, And sorry I could not travel both And be one traveler, long I stood And looked down one as far as I could To where it bent in the undergrowth. Then took the other, as just as fair, And having perhaps the better claim, Because it was grassy and wanted wear; Though as for that the passing there Had worn them really about the same. And both that morning equally lay In leaves no step had trodden black. Oh, I kept the first for another day! Yet knowing how way leads on to way, I doubted if I should ever come back. I shall be telling this with a sigh Somewhere ages and ages hence: Two roads diverged in a wood, and I-- I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference.I hope you enjoyed this article on making choices. Everyone makes choices. Good choices can be made by simply choosing and doing them.