Positive Self Talk
Positive self talk is an important key to maintaining positivity and proactivity in life. Even with everything I am discovering about life, being happy, and being dedicated, there are still days
where motivation is not as easy to come by. The thoughts I think and the things I say to myself are important tools I use to make sure that I maintain a high level of motivation and continuing dedication,
even on the most gloomy of days. With this power, you can do the same for your life.
What is Positive Self Talk?
Positive self talk is any time in which you as an individual think or talk to yourself in a beneficial manner. So, talking to yourself you might be wondering. What is this, a lesson for crazy people? No, not at all, this is a lesson for all us normal people out there. Constanly you are thinking and frequently you talk to yourself. Positive self talk is any thought you think, or any speech you say to yourself that provides a mechanism for improvement or upliftment. Anything you do which detracts from these two things is not positive self talk. Sadly, I must make mention of all the things done that are not positive self talk so that a realization can be made of harmful things thought and said.Facing Negativity
Many of you may have had experience growing up and being told that you cannot do something. Whether it was something that required money, time, or was simple, your parents may have told you that you cannot do it. After a while growing up, it becomes a natural thing to be told no. In grade school, grades are given and the focus is the penalty for getting incorrect answers. Such a negative focus growing up and is it a wonder that there is such a need for positive self talk in the world today?Think back to your childhood and what your parents or friends might have done or said to you that potentially warped your mind to a negative way of thinking or a doubt in yourself. For me, it is realizing that growing up, self talk was something I never ever heard of. I may have heard that crazy people talk to themselves, but never about how positive self talk can build you up and help you press forward with renewed effort. What a useful tool this would have been growing up as a teenager! I could have used the confidence, self esteem, and boost that positive self talk would have given me.
Whether you played sports in high school, were in band, or took out your frustrations by playing with the chess team, chances are that you faced negative self talk from a variety of people. Your coach may have yelled and cursed at you and told you you were slow. Or a teacher misunderstood you and told you off in front of the class. Or you had to deal with the ignorant ridicule of other students who either picked on you or were bored and took out that boredom by picking on you. Either way, even the most celebrated jock in high school has had to deal with at least some negative talk.
It is not a fun thing to think back to the negative things that happened when you were young. But take time to really think back on it. To some level, we've all had to face it, some having to deal with more negativity that others. Singling out and recognizing the negativity is a huge step to changing it and stopping it from happening to the youth of today.
Why Use Positive Self Talk?
There is more to your thoughts and speech than you can likely imagine at this time. Some of you may realize the importance your thoughts and speaking to yourself have, but the reality is that your life is dictated by what/where you tell it to go! Think very carefully about this please. What you say and think to yourself is where your life will go. Every one of us are pilots, charting the course of life that we will each take. This is very real. The course we take is dependent on our view of ourselves and the way we think and talk to ourselves. Sure, there may be good and bad weather at times, but the course remains what is made of it.This is knowledge I did not have until very recently, within that last couple years. I was so used to playing basketball and cursing at myself when I missed a few shots. It was so easy for me to ridicule myself when I made mistakes. Oh the ignorance of such thinking! Yes, realize your mistakes and shortcomings, but do not constantly dwell on them and imbed them as part of your being. Instead, constanly use positive self talk. Use it in the following situations.
- Right when you wake up
- While you are brushing your teeth
- While you take your shower
- When you eat breakfast
- While you drive to work or go to school
- When you are at school/work throughout the day
- Whenever you feel down
- Whenever you feel uplifted
- On your way home
- While eating dinner
- While spending time with friends/family
- While getting ready for bed
- While laying down in bed
Positive Self Talk Examples
Now you've heard a little bit about positive self talk, let's look at some examples of things that can be thought of and said out loud to boost yourself and help you realize that you are much greater than you could have every realized without this.Positive Self Talk for Confidence
- I am as capable as anyone else out there
- I know with time and effort I can accomplish anything
- I am comfortable in front of people and say the right things
- I know who I am and I am special
- Anyone who meets me will remember how fascinating I am
- I can accomplish any task set out before me
- I find things out when no clear answer is defined
- I am worthwhile, succesful, and happy
Positive Self Talk for a Healthy Life Style
- I eat food that has a lasting benefit for me
- I love to eat healthy food!
- Occassionally I indulge myself in tasty food
- Vegetables and fruits strengthen me and I love to eat them
- I love going for a walk and seeing the outdoors
- Exercise is a time for me to get stronger and reflect on life
- Running makes me feel good
- I only eat what I need to sustain myself
Positive Self Talk for Financial Freedom
- I only spend money on what is essential
- I constantly seek other ways to make money
- I am generous with my money and give back to others
- I am confident in my career and I am worth a lot
- I am successful in anything I try
- I always keep plenty of money on hand
- I am able to make money because I am smart and talented
- Money helps me do great and wonderful things
Positive Self Talk for Overcoming Fear/Doubt
- I don't worry about anything
- I accept the things I cannot control
- I always give my best effort and that is good enough
- I am smart, confident, and capable
- I seek the best in other people and accept their weaknesses
- I love challenges and the gain from overcoming them
- I can solve any problem
- Anything is possible with a little faith
Positive Self Talk for Being Stress Free
- I am always cool, calm, and understanding
- I always observe before reacting
- Being busy means I am important
- I am organized and know what I need to do
- I know where I am going in life
- I accept the choices of other people
- I am learning and growing
- I love to meditate and reflect on life
Getting Started With Positive Self Talk
So how do you get started with positive self talk? Simple, take the necessary steps this website outlines to turn yourself in the right direction. Then create your own positive self talk dialogue which you increase over time. Then use it constantly, even in the most dire of situations.I recommend reading the book, "What to say when you talk to yourself" by Shad Helmstetter. This is a book that helped me learn quite a bit about positive self talk and realizing the negative things I said to myself.
I hope you enjoyed this page on positive self talk. The things you think and say to yourself have a profound impact on where your life goes each and every day.