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4. Make It Happen

You now have a purpose to your life, you believe in yourself, and you have the tools and ability to build yourself up so that you are a force to be reckoned with. You have most of what you need to change your life. However, that is not enough - you must actually put in time and effort using the knowledge you have. This step I will admit is the most challenging step. But if you are doing the first three steps right, you will not be swayed when the difficulty comes in making things happen and making time to do what will change your life.

Simple Goals

Having figured out your purpose in life, having belief, and building yourself up, it's time to put into detail what it is you are trying to accomplish. This means setting out to do specific things. It also means setting a period of time to accomplish those things. If your purpose in life is to save the lives of other people, I'd reckon that setting a goal to become a police officer, fire fighter, psychiatrist, or somebody who helps in some manner would be a good start. In 6 years you want to be a full fledged psychiatrist. That is great. You've at least got a vision of what you want to do.

Take a moment and jot down some of the things you would like to accomplish in your life. They can be related to your health, your career, your finances, your relationships, whatever it is you are trying to accomplish. Write down at least three things. Don't just write down anything, give this some thought. For me, I've decided that I am going to help people in their lives to become better than they are. This means starting with this website, and quite a number of other things once this website matures, such as: It is kind of overwhelming when I think about the sheer number of tasks I have to complete. It is a Sunday night on 3/16/2008 while I am writing this. I look anxiously to a year from now to see where I am with everything. This sure is exciting!

Put Together a Plan

You can have goals to be the owner of a company, to eat healthier, to exercise, to make some extra money, or whatever it is. But you are nothing without a plan to put in motion the goal. Without a plan, you are guessing and heading into the unknown. So putting together a plan is a crucial step. To put together a plan for anything, simply do the following: This is just a simple example. After this tutorial, read on how to plan for a more detailed explanation of how proper planning can benefit you.

Follow Through

Following through is important. This means if you set out to do something and have a plan in place, that you get your butt into gear and do what you have set out to do. It's that simple. If you have followed the previous steps of defining your purpose in life, believing in yourself, and building yourself up, following through should not be an issue - you will want to follow through and spend as much time as necessary to accomplish what you are doing.

However, following through with yourself is only half the battle. You must follow through with your relationships with other people. No doubt, a good portion of what you are setting out to do will require the assistance, input, or talents of other people. It is important to treat others with respect when getting their assistance with things. Let them know you are thankful for their help, and let them know your expectations of them and what they can expect from you.

Ask for Guidance and Help

It is okay to ask for help. In fact, it's better than ok, you should do it whenever you can. However, I recommend that before you ask help from people that you put in the time and effort to find out for yourself the answer to your questions. If you ask someone, "Hey, how much does a dvd player cost?" when you can just go online and take five minutes to see how much a dvd player costs, you are in a way insulting the person you are asking the question to and admitting laziness. However, if you've spent time trying to figure it out, or just plain are in a major time crunch, then asking for help is important.

Be careful not to abuse getting help from people. Repeatedly asking for assistance from people adds up. In a way, you are extracting something from them without getting anything in return. I believe there are natural laws and consequences when you give back to other people and when you do not give back after you have received much. Generally the consequence is that the person who has been helping you will become disgruntled or wary of you if you do not give back to them for the aid they have given you. Their supporting you hinges on your giving back to them.

Trust in Yourself

It may seem redundant for me to tell you to trust in yourself when part of this tutorial is about believing in yourself. Trusting in yourself is a little bit different. You can believe in yourself all you want. But trust in yourself will only come with experience and evidence that you are capable. This takes time. It means you will have to probably fail a few times. It means that you will have to build up your credibility to yourself. For example, I trust myself when it comes to building websites. I've done it long enough and know all the ins and outs, all the quirks that come with doing it. There is no question about doing a website that I feel I can't answer. This comes from doing it for about seven years now, so taking time to learn and build ourselves up is definitely necessary.

Celebrate Success and Recognize Failure

Reward yourself for the effort you put in to whatever you are trying to accomplish. This may mean you take a trip to the movies, go get a massage, or simply take a day off from working. It all depends on your situation and what you can afford. The points is to reward yourself with something you enjoy. For me, the reward is seeing people helped in their lives and becoming better. I find great satisfaction to hear someone say to me that I made a difference in their life. That is all I am seeking to do is make a difference in people's lives. For you, the rewards may be different. Perhaps you like having extra money, or want a new stereo, or an XBox 360, or whatever it is. Bottom line, you will reap the reward according to the time and effort you put in.

Discover Your Destiny Guide Congratulations! You have completed the fourth phase in self improvement and that is to make it happen. I would be very interested in hearing what you have found as you make things happen in your life. You can click the contact me link on the left to tell me.

Continue on to the next and final phase of your self improvement, Giving Back.